Nobody remembers what you wore. They remember whether you asked a real question and whether you listened to the answer.
Bring
A short list of three or four genuine questions in your head. Cash or a card so there is no awkward moment at the end. A phone that stays in your pocket. A way home you already know.
Leave at home
The list of what you want in a spouse. Your mother's suggestion of what to ask. The story you have told on every date so far.
Two things that cost nothing
Choose somewhere you can hear each other — that is what our quiet filter is for. And end the date ten minutes before it runs out of things to say, not after.
Browse date spots by city and by atmosphere, and save the ones you want to try to your planner.